Bitterness vs. Anger

I heard my pastor the other day say that its not a sin to be Anger. Its what you do with that Anger that can make it a sin. Bitterness is a Sin and some people confuse it with Anger. Its ok to get upset, its even ok to voice it to someone. But its not ok To trash talk, hold on to, and not forgive. Thats what makes Anger turn into a sin. I am starting to understand that theory more and more. Over these last couple of years I have been having to do a lot of forgiving. And once you become a Mom I guess thats were you get to practice all that forgiving.
To this day I remember when my oldest daughter broke a Priceless item I had. It Made me SO anger. But it was what I did with that Anger that counted.  I breathed......(inside my head I screamed bloody murder and profanity to my hearts content) but to my daughter I deep toned let her new that was not ok. It hurt mommys feelings and then I let her know that no matter what I would always love her.
Sometimes in our marriages we forget that Anger is ok. But what we do with it is what makes or breaks the relationship.
Where do I personally go wrong? Well I am stubborn! There I bluntly said it! I hold a grudge and I stay silent not allowing the other party to have a clue about my feelings. Well maybe thats just in my head. Maybe just maybe they know exactly how I feel?
Where do I need to improve, well thats easy. First I need to get my feelings off my chest. Not in a harsh way but in a concered here ya go, lets talk this out cause I am feeling icky way. Then I need to be willing to hear the other side.
Last I need to forgive and ask forgiveness of the other person. I need to always remember that he is just human too and that I need to understand he isnt a mind reader.
I need to not be bitter twards him and I need to allow time to heal and God to help me grow.
Wow that sounds like a laundry list. But thats were I need a proverbs women to the rescue.
Its ok to be Angery but remember its not ok to let that Anger get the better of you.
Find a Proverbs women/wife in your life that you can talk to when you need advice. And remember that Forgiving others is why God can forgive you!